You ever fell in love and you thought that this man couldn’t do any wrong, that this man was the one or that he would be everything that was missing from your life? But that one time that this man didn’t make you feel like the queen that you were, he lied,he played games and he crushed all of the visions of potential that those rose-colored glasses showed you. How would you feel if love lied to you? If you were painted a picture that really didn’t exist?

Some of us women excuse me , girls are out here trying to put a Band-Aid on open heart surgery! We are forgiving the same person and expecting something different and getting the same thing and believing him when he says he changed. But at the end of the day he is still that liar, he is still that manipulator that you still chose to believe and to give another chance. When it’s all said and done, you’re the one left picking up the pieces of your broken heart by yourself. As women we need to take better care of our emotional health, and this is definitely not the way to do it.

Most of you who will read this can guess why I feel that I can speak on this subject so fluently but, I’m not gonna get into all of that. This post isn’t about me or the lies that I’ve been told. This post is to encourage females out there to raise those rose colored glasses and see people for exactly who they are and what they show you that they can be.

There is always a pattern in behavior but the problem is, you’re not always aware of it, especially in the beginning. But when you’re finally fed up, and have allowed yourself time to grieve and process, you really start to uncover some fucked up shit. You start to really understand what the fuck just happened in your life. You are able to make sense of the hurt that you feel and that allows you to forgive yourself for some of things that you let happen. Ladies just know that you are not the problem! Your mindset is!

Our mindset often puts us into positions that ultimately end in disappointment. I know it’s February and it’s the month of “love” but lets do better as people in this world of dating. Let’s start to be upfront and open about our intentions and save the world from some heart ache. The lies will only create a distorted reality for those you truly care about and that itself is enough punishment. So Fellas, just ask yourself what Aliyah said in that bomb song of hers.

1. Disclaimer- Ladies you aren’t innocent but, we not talking about us right now LOL!

~ The Mouthy Introvert